BEING INDECISIVE

 Romans 12:1

 “I appeal to you therefore, brethren, and beg of you in view of [all] the mercies of God, to make a decisive dedication of your bodies [presenting all your members and faculties] as a living sacrifice, holy (devoted, consecrated) and well pleasing to God, which is your reasonable (rational, intelligent) service and spiritual worship.” Amplified

 Indecision is a miserable place to be and certainly not in keeping with a mature Christian.  The apostle James said the double-minded man is unstable in all of his ways and will not receive anything he asks from the Lord.  How can God give us anything if we can never make up our minds concerning what we want?  James 1:5 – 8  

I tend to think that we all have moments of indecision in our lives and it is at those times that we feel most vulnerable.  It is often brought on by fear which causes us to feel insecure.  Insecure people have difficulty making decisions because they are always afraid they will make the wrong one.  They have a low opinion of themselves and don’t trust themselves to do the right thing.  Perfectionists also have difficulty because they never want to take a chance on being wrong.  Anyone who is decisive occasionally makes a bad decision, but they make more right ones than wrong ones. 

When we feel vulnerable we will latch on to anyone who will listen and seek their help in making a decision.  We do this so that if we are wrong, someone else was wrong with us.

Don’t you see how foolish that is?  As a young housewife I used to love to go shopping with my girlfriends.  In fact, I don’t remember buying anything without someone being with me to help me make the decision.  As I matured in the things of God, I came to the realization that most of what I bought, when I got it home and really looked at it, I didn’t even like it.  I spent a lot of wasted time returning things or wearing them, but not really liking what I wore.  I came to a point in my life, where I realized I needed to stop being so indecisive and to trust my own judgment.  To this day, if I really need to buy something for myself, I prefer to go alone. 

That’s a light thing, what about the decisions we make that are life changing?  Decisions like a house, or a job, a marriage or a divorce, to let someone into your life or ask them to leave.  These are all decisions that can be life changing.  When faced with these types of decisions – who do you turn to?  “Where no wise guidance is, the people fall, but in the multitude of counselors there is safety.”  Amplified  Proverbs 11:14 teaches us that there is safety in a multitude of counselors.  Do you have wise, godly people who can provide sound counsel in your life?  If so, consult them often.  Never put them ahead of God, and do not let them make your final decisions, because those should be made between you and God.  However, wise counselors are very valuable, and if you do not have such people in your life, ask God to send them.  And what is key here is that you consult wise people, but then the decision is still yours.  I recently changed my Board of Directors because I realized I needed to consult with men and women of God who were more spiritually mature than I am.  I have always had a spiritual mother and father in the Tuff’s, but I didn’t consult them very often about decisions I needed to make for the ministry.  I realize now that I could have been much further along in doing what God has called me to do if I had sought godly counsel earlier in my ministry. 

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